27 lessons at 27
a peek into my inner world
as i age, i notice how deeply i feel every experience and interaction — and i find myself reflecting in my journal, writing down how i feel and what i can take away from my experiences. aging is a privilege and more often than not, i take this life for granted because i’m always thinking about what’s next. when i turned 26 last year, i sat down at the beach and wrote down 26 things that i learned from my experiences, and since then i’ve decided to make it a yearly tradition. so i present to you my 27 lessons i’ve learned at 27 years old.
27 lessons at 27:
comparison destroys personality.
if people are committed to misunderstanding you, you will always be the villain in their story.
you can reinvent yourself at any time.
it’s not about who knows you the longest, it’s about who makes you feel seen, heard, appreciated and loved.
every time you avoid discomfort, you’re reinforcing the belief that you can’t handle it.
keep a physical archive, not just your photos app!
a closed mouth doesn’t get fed, the worst they can say is ‘no’.
you are the average of your 5 closest friends.
lack of discipline makes you ugly.
keep a running list of all your favorite things (songs, movies, books, restaurants, etc).
success is not final, failure is not fatal.
healing also means taking an honest look at the role you play in your own suffering.
it’s not necessary to react to everything you notice.
focus on how your life FEELS rather than looks.
be crazy about your life.
you will never have this version of me again, slow down and be with her.
make a bucket list for every season.
people can only understand you at the depth they have met themselves.
sharing your goals is cheap dopamine.
create what calls to YOU, not what you think people want to see.
create lists of favorite things to do/see in places you travel to so you can recommend to others!
screenshot/save kind messages and comments to look back on when you’re having a bad day.
you don’t need to earn rest.
embarrassment is a choice.
pour into habits that keep you off your phone.
love loudly — reach out to people and let them know you’re thinking of them.
set reminders to GET YOUR FILM DEVELOPED!
i hope this inspired you to make your own list of lessons — no need to wait til your birthday. allow yourself to really be present and reflect on your thoughts and emotions, and what you think are important life lessons at your age (and feel free to share them below). allow your inner world to come to life on a page, and revisit it as often as you want.
thank you for reading this week’s newsletter and thank you for being patient with me. i didn't mean to take a month long hiatus, i just didn’t want to force something that wasn’t there. thank you for being here <3
sharing your goals is cheap dopamine - this absolutely hit!! i always have found i tend to not sustain those goals. but when i work quietly on them...the results end up speaking for themselves eventually xx
As an eighteen year old this feels like the big sister advice I needed but never got <3