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Movieholic's avatar

As a woman who's turning 20 this year and has no clue what to do in life specialy after graduating, thnx for the tips and advice... adolescence is scary🫰🏻🎀

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Gabrielle's avatar

i'm so glad you enjoyed this, thank you so much for reading!! 🫶🏽

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ivyltomn's avatar

Yesterday was my birthday and this really helped me to start my 20's.🫶🏻

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Gabrielle's avatar

happy birthday angel!! 🎂 wishing you a year of abundance & growth 🌟🫂

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ivyltomn's avatar

aww thank you gabrielle! your words really made my day. wishing you the same and more!

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Afia's avatar

I feel your 20’s are where you really discover who YOU are, and that can be a wonderful thing for some. I love the journey of self discovery, but for others, they aren’t ready to face who they are or struggle to let go of their adolescence. The most important thing is we’re not just one or two things, you discover a million other sides of yourself. ✨

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misunderstoodsoul🌴's avatar

Randomly stumbled upon your YouTube , heard you mention Substack immediately had to search you🥰🥰

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Gabrielle's avatar

omg hiii tysm for watching & for being here 💞

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sophia's avatar

this is totally what I needed to hear as someone that is taking a year longer to finish college. it’s so easy to compare and watch other people doing “better” than you. but it’s all subjective, thank you.

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Gabrielle's avatar

yup i totally hear you! everything is subjective - you're doing great!! i wish you the best with the rest of your studies 🫶🏽

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michiepoo's avatar

26 here and this was so affirming!

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Ryan's avatar

Yes to all of this. You ran a marathon, your marathon, not theirs. Comparison has a way of stealing the joy from milestones we should be proud of. I wrote about this exact feeling in “Run Your Race, Not Theirs”, the idea that we unconsciously measure our worth by someone else’s timeline, forgetting what it took just to get to our own starting line.

https://presentandprogressing.substack.com/p/run-your-race-not-theirs

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Ryan's avatar

And thanks for sharing! I also write a lot of my content for early 20s professionals trying to navigate the early stages of their post university life, would love to connect! 😄

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Gabrielle's avatar

love that! i'll def check out your newsletters 😊

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Sae Abiola's avatar

🤗🤗🤗👍👍👍

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aud's avatar

‘a goal without action is just a thought’ YES!!!!!

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edwardsparkle's avatar

thank you for this ◡̈ reading it grounded me in a world of chaos

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Gabrielle's avatar

thank you sm for reading 🫶🏽

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Berenice Mejia's avatar

as a 35 year old busy mommy of two…i can say I’ve reinvented myself plenty of times and while some past versions of me felt a bit of shame “starting over” the confidence and security i feel in myself now…girl, i will reinvent myself as many times as i need just to be sure im satisfied when i open my eyes each day. This is a fantastic read, keep them coming! 🫶🏽

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Gabrielle's avatar

ty for reading Bere 🥹🫶🏽 u radiate confidence - luv this version 🫂

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mygirlmo's avatar

Great read! 💕

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Chynna's Column's avatar

Hey fellow Leo #August6th great post!

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Seya's avatar

I definitely needed this! And i am already 30 😂

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jacqueline's avatar

These are all so very true!!

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Zara Monét (SB)'s avatar

So I'm new to this place, but your newsletter caught my eye. I'm turning 19 in a few days and I've been on a (very hectic) journey of personal development for a year now. For the longest time, I felt like I hadn't made much progress, especially with my productivity and procrastination constantly peeping through, which caused me to go through periods of over-working myself till burnout, then losing motivation. It became a recurring cycle and I started to doubt my abilities and whether or not I was even improving as a person. I did a journaling type task yesterday, and I realized that mentally, I'm doing a lot better, in terms of my self-concept, attachment style, confidence, etc. Even if I didn't think I was. This motivated me to start being productive again (as I was so burnt out I took a break for a couple days) and I told myself I'd start next week, so it was a fresh start. But reading this, especially the "you can reinvent yourself at anytime", made me ask "why am I waiting?", "what am I waiting for?", "what's stopping me from starting now?", "why have I been postponing and procrastinating about when I start things?" It made me realize that I'm the one holding myself back from the things I want, so I'll put an end to it. I'll start today! Even if I'm not perfect and I don't do everything I wanted to do, I'll at least do something. Something that helps me improve, makes me happy, or something that just puts me at ease. I plan on choosing one day out the week specifically for rest so hopefully I don't burnout this time lol. But I'm excited to start again, not to be perfect, but to make sure I put effort and did the best I could. I'm so glad I found this, thank you very much 🙏🏾🤍.

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Richard's avatar

This is a good read!

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